In my small-town mind, they were things that should not be discussed and the definition of taboo. But they weren’t taboo enough to stop me from buying the battery-powered blue monstrosity with its exaggerated veins and head. I was embarrassed by it from day one, and even more so after using it, with no understanding of what it was going to give me.
wisdom comes with age
As I got to know my body better, exploring on my own or during partner sex, with other toys I’d purchased, I realized this. As much as I love penetration with my partner(s), I don’t particularly enjoy dildos. I found most impersonal, poorly designed, and because it wouldn’t be until my late 30s that I would finally be able to get a kick out of G-spot simulation, at that level of pleasure, they weren’t for me. That didn’t stop me from trying to get something from them, especially when I started writing about sexual wellness and suddenly had a world of sex toys and the latest inventions at my fingertips.
My feelings on dildos changed drastically with the Lelo Gigi 3. Finally, an internal dildo whose head was flat as opposed to cone-shaped, meaning it covered more of the G-spot area. Breaking news, that’s what I needed after all. While many other dildos have a round head, which many people like, the flat head of the Gigi 3 really sets it apart.
It’s not just the shape of the head, but also the way it radiates excitement. Because the eight vibration modes are delivered through the flattened head, the sensations are more intense and thunderous, meaning I can feel them branching out and reaching more nerve endings. People with vulvas are often taught that when it comes to sexual pleasure, the focus should be on the clitoris or the G-spot – or both together – but the reality is that the entire area is packed with nerve endings. So, it stands to reason that people with vulvas can experience orgasms outside of these two areas, such as through the A-spot (anterior fornix) and U-spot (urethral sponge).
When size matters
I am not a size queen. I’ll be the first to admit that smaller is better when it comes to external vibrators. However, when it comes to internal vibrators, the size and shape of the shaft matter. The Gigi 3 is the ideal size for G-spot stimulation. Even those who haven’t officially found their G-spot yet can’t possibly miss it when using the Gigi 3 because the length and slight arch of the shaft puts that flattened head exactly where every person with a vulva wants it. For me, I like to put a few drops of water-based lube on the head and shaft of the Gigi 3, relax myself, and then slide it in. From there, I can immerse myself in the moment without fiddling with buttons (the Gigi 3 is app-controlled).
When I’m not in the mood for internal play, the flat head of the Gigi 3 is great for direct clitoral stimulation or teasing other parts of my vulva. As I’ve learned, just because the labia doesn’t have as many nerve endings as the clitoris doesn’t mean it’s better to ignore it.
Is the Lelo Gigi 3 My Favorite Sex Toy? No, depending on the day and my mood, my favorite sex toys and vibrators change. But, if you’re someone who has a vagina and has never liked a dildo, the Gigi 3 might be your ticket to sexual bliss. It can also reach that spot if you prefer clitoral stimulation, but want the vibrations to involve more than just the outer tip of the clitoris. Although Gigi 3 can be used anywhere, internally and externally, if you have a vulva, it is a must-have.
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